You Mean My Baby is Going To Have a Mind of His Own One Day?? HELP!

I'm not sure why this is just occurring to me now, perhaps it was my lack of finesse at handling a little skirmish by a couple of the 4 year-olds in Sunday School yesterday (my first day teaching the class!), and then the off-hand comment someone made that "that's how boys are so you'd better get used to it"*, but as of today, I am officially floundering in Mommyland. I mean, I know Max has a couple months before he really hits the terrible twos, but I already see the writing on the wall. Mabel will be playing with something and Max meanders over to look and she gets territorial, but Max continues trying to get whatever she has. Then Weston has a toy and Max wants it so he tries to take it. Thankfully, at this point, Max doesn't really protest if I redirect him, but having witnessed the last year of Mabel & Weston's interactions, I know that the day is coming when he will fight to the death to get his paws on some tempting item. So I need the help of all my friends who have been down this road already. What are some good books to read on how to handle battles between kids and other discipline/growing up issues? I also would be happy to have some ideas for how you handled the inevitable fights over sharing. I feel like I was really prepared for the infant stage, but not for the social skills training, limit testing, independence-grasping years that we're on the brink of. HELP!!!

*I know it's not just a "boy thing" - As I told some people the other night at Mabel's birthday party while she was in her new Cinderella dress - She's just as likely to tackle someone in that dress as she is to dance around. Girls can be rough and tumble too!*

Have We Gone Too Far??

"I deserve a paper plate that's as strong as I am." What?????? I just heard this on a TV ad and HAD to post it! It was a "busy mom" character who was reflecting on what she deserves in life. While some advertisers have been playing to the whole concept of empowering women for a while now (case in point: the Dove "Campaign for Real Beauty") and that's great, I think this is going over the edge. It just seems like something you'd hear on one of those fake ads on Saturday Night Live, not on a real ad. Does this strike anyone else as funny????? What are some other petty things we can add to the list of things we deserve? "I deserve toilet paper that's as strong as I am" I'd love to hear your ideas so post 'em!